Adjusting to Life After a Breakup

Adjusting to Life After a Breakup
Most of us have been there at some stage of our lives. Hours on the phone to our friends, crying, hoarding the mint chocolate chip ice cream, wandering about in our pyjamas; it’s what is commonly known as the mourning phase of breaking up - when your life doesn’t feel the same and you finally feel the loss of the other person. Whether you initiate the break up or he does, there is a mourning process to go through.

Once you go through mourning the loss of your relationship, you have to put your world back together. It’s not going to be easy but keep in mind this isn’t the first relationship to have ended and it likely won’t be the last. The fact is, life is going to go on with or without you participating in it. If you want to come back to the land of the living, you’ll have to do some adjusting and get over your break up.

Look Back and Laugh

Let’s not look back at the relationship that just ended but rather the one or two before. You weathered those storms and moved on to have more fun and fulfilling relationships, right? The same will happen here. Think about what you did when the last relationship ended. Moving on wasn’t easy then either; you can probably look at some of the things you did to move on and laugh about them. Do the same here. Think about how you must have looked when the delivery guy showed up to drop off that package you’d been waiting for; kind of scary in your kitty pyjamas and bear foot slippers weren’t you? Go ahead and laugh. It is rather funny.

Plan a Girls’ Night

Call your best gal pals up and announce your freedom or rather your entrance back into the dating game. Get out your sexy underwear, thigh high stockings and think about the evening ahead. Practice your ‘come and get me’ smile for all the single guys you’ll undoubtedly have your eye on tonight and run through your sexy, flirty giggles.

Think of the evening as a celebration – free from the constraints of being in a relationship. Celebrate all there is to being a single and available woman and invite your friends to join in. Tell your gal pals it’s girls only; you’re out to celebrate being a female - the most intriguing and sexy creature on the planet - and guys aren’t allowed tonight.

Get Out of the House

When was the last time you took a holiday on your own? Probably years or maybe never. You can’t count any work related trips so don’t even try it! A change of scenery might be what you need in order to get back into single life again. If you don’t have some place already in mind, start hunting down some of the current travel deals. Talk to friends and family and see what trips they’ve been on recently.

The object here is to kiss your place goodbye for a few days. Whether it’s a sunny vacation on a beach or a cabin nestled high among the snow capped mountains, change your scenery and change your outlook. Give yourself a chance to rest and rejuvenate. A break up is hard; it can take a lot out of the body and the mind so taking yourself somewhere new to recoup will help heal the whole you.

Dote on Yourself

A new haircut, pedicure, manicure, some new shoes to wear during your girls’ night out - all of these things can make you feel like a brand new woman and not the one roaming around the house in her slippers and pyjamas. Make yourself feel good by looking good. The beautiful you will begin to radiate from the inside out and fill the room.

Find a way to make yourself feel special; no matter what it is, do it. If you’ve been thinking about heading back to the gym (maybe you got comfortable in your past relationship and those jeans are a little tight today), buying a new book, taking a class – make sure that what you do is for you and not someone else.

The Healing Power of Sex

OK, so it might not be for everyone but many women swear that sex with someone new heals them and allows them to put their ex out of sight, out of body, and out of their minds once and for all. If you choose this route, don’t expect anything more than a hot, passionate night of sex. No strings attached and unless you’re willing to open yourself back up, no phone numbers either.

Others will argue that one night stands (we’re only talking about one… not one of many) only fill an empty void. That’s possible but what better way to feel sexy, desirable and hot than to let another man want you.

During the time it takes you to adjust back to single life, you’re going to discover that you’ve grown and perhaps changed a little along the way; this is the natural progression of life. We have ups and downs, heartache and sadness but once we get past it, we learn there is an exciting life waiting for us on the other side. We only have to travel a little to get there.

The Law of Significance

Everybody, anyone want ONE thing, the same thing: a happy life.

The Law of Significance
People try to achieve great things by themselves mainly because of the size of their ego, their level of insecurity, or simple naiveté and temperament. One is too small a number to achieve greatness.

- Every single person who achieves something of significance wishes for that thing.

- Every single person wishes that they had all of the money they wanted to fulfill all of their desires.

- Wishes cannot give you what you are seeking. When you have a wish, however, that is backed by a desire that is an obsession and does not recognize failure, you will start to achieve what you are looking for. You need to firmly desire something. The people who achieve the most in the world have great desire.

-When you desire something enough you can achieve anything. Just wishing for something is not enough. A wish must be transformed into a white hot desire for it to gain the power and momentum it needs. You need to have a strong desire in order to achieve anything.

-You Need to Have Desire to Achieve Your Goals!!

-Success is GREAT. But significance is LASTING.

- Learn how to achieve the success you desire while leading a life of significance..... To achieve the SIGNIFICANCE in life...you need to know 'HOW' and how to nurture our wounded inner child, how to improve our self esteem, how to enhance our creativity, how to improve memory, how to become more productive, how to end procrastination, how to improve relationships, how to be spiritual person, how to SELL yourself, how to get all the love we need, how to become successful, how to become rich, how to communicate better....

- Give yourself TIME. Give yourself a clearly defined end date to achieve your goals by.

- Make it public. Share your goals and commitments with other people — your partner, your parents, your friends and co-workers..others.

- Change yourself, not the things around you. Change your attitude, not your things– if you’re unorganized, figure out why you have a hard time putting things into a memorable system and change that; if you don’t feel good about yourself, look at your life and what’s not going well, rather than seeking out a remedy that has nothing to do with what’s making you unhappy.

- Success is when I add value to Myself. Significance is when I add value to Others.

-Individuals play the game, but teams win championships. Teams involve more people, thus affording more resources, ideas and energy than would an individual.

-Significance comes when we are able to develop leaders to do great things for others. But our impact or legacy is created when we are able to put our institution in a position of value to others.

Camelia says "My dear friends, let us grow to our maximum potential and nurture the kind of spirituality that is self-affirming, empowering, and liberating, so that we can be the best we can become. Let us start with ourselves. Have faith in yourself and in others. We have to believe we can all become leaders who can bring about the change we wish to see in the world. "

“You can dream, create, design and build the most wonderful place in the world… but it requires people to make the dream a reality.” - Walt Disney